11 December, 2011

it seems i have an invisible suit

do you ever feel like you're invisible?

i certainly do, well that is until someone wants something.

i embarked on my weightloss/fitness mission about 2 months ago and i've been going really well. i've lost 11kg so far and i'm a hell of a lot fitter than i was and i'm just starting to feel like my body has some sort of normality about it. having 4 babies certainly isn't easy on the body!

aside from my personal trainer (who i love!) and my husband not one person has commented on me looking any different. i don't think i look drastically different yet but surely they can see something?

and what this does is highlights how invisible it can feel to be a mother.

prior to having my children i was a commercial sales manager for an appliance company. it was during the real boom in unit development and i was considered senior management and well.... important. there i had job satisfaction even if it didn't come in the way of the owner saying 'well done on getting that order for 150 units' i had a sense of completion. problems were solved, goods sent out and just jobs completed.

motherhood jobs are never completed. no-one ever says 'well done' and 'thank you' is about teaching the kids manners rather than someone actually being thankful.

so i figure clearly i must have my invisible suit on and people just can't see what a huge achievement loosing 11kg is...

do you ever feel invisible?


  1. Hi Nicky,

    I think you are amazing and I think you do a fantastic job! Looking after four kids, running an online business and being successful in your weight loss goals, what a woman! Even though I only have one little baby to take care of I can try to understand how you must feel. At 'work' you receive that external praise but when you're doing mummy 'work' I guess it's assumed that you will do what you have to do therefore no thanks required. If people at home don't praise you enough then praise yourself or treat yourself as you deserve it!

  2. Awww thanks Katie, what a lovely comment! x

  3. Two friends of mine have just lost lots of weight, one I have told twice how great she looks as I know how much this has taken for her. The other, I have mentioned too, but i didn't feel as comfortable really saying, "wow" you look so great. There is that line of thinking you are saying they didn't look so great before, which is not what you want to say, but, you know, it is all in the mind!

  4. That's very true Clairey, I didn't think of it from that point of view!

    I do know I'm doing a great job with it, sometimes I guess it comes down to the loneliness of Motherhood too. x

  5. Hey Nicky! Wow 11kgs is fantastic, well done :) I lost around 14kgs prior to Christmas, but I'm not completely back to where I want to be. I've not had many comments either although I know I do look a lot different. I guess like Claire says sometimes people don't want give the impression you didn't look great before. The most important thing is how you feel yourself!
    I don't lose weight for anyone but me :)