09 December, 2011

i'm sorry, what did you say?

today i took all 4 kids to a major shopping center to get lachlan's hair cut. i was prepared for the stares and the comments that people seem to think is acceptable to say just because you have more than 2 children.

the kids were actually good and we did received a few funny looks a bit like we were the travelling freak show but we didn't have to endure any comments. the lovely lady who cut lachy's hair said how lovely all the kids were and asked if i'd be trying for another boy, ahhhh that would be a NO! it did make a nice change from the usual things people say like:

gee you must have your hands full - ahh no shit sherlock!

i don't know how you cope - well actually neither do i but is there an option?

were they all planned? - no, we only 'tried' for our 3rd but feel completely blessed that we didn't actually have fertility issues.

gee that must be expensive - i don't recall asking you to pay for anything so how about you mind your own business!

are they all yours? - well unless i'm in the habit of picking up stray children around the place, yes, yes they are.

i don't know how you do it - i don't know that either.

don't you have a tv - sorry, what's that got to do with the price of cheese in china?

you're not having any more are you? - no i'm not but again that's none of your damn business!

now i know people aren't saying these things to be malicious but seriously do they really think they are the first ones who've said it to me? do you think pointing out obvious things to me helps me in my day?

so instead of a stare or a stupid comment how about a smile and "have a wonderful day".


  1. Here's to that!!!

    i love the, "are they all yours?" No i love taking other peoples tired cranky toddlers grocery shopping!

  2. "Are they all yours?" Actually...my friend has 3 and her friend has 4 and they often trade off running the kids to and from activities, so either one of them could have 7 kids with them at any given time...so maybe not a completely silly question. But I get how it could be annoying!

    This was funny, 'were they all planned?' rather a personal question from a complete stranger!

  3. Because I am young I get the "they can't be yours!" and "were they planned" ones. Now that we have two boys I get "when will you try for a girl" and "such a shame the second was another boy!"

    I think four is a great number :)

  4. I think some people are just completely clueless about how their comments affect other people!