things the books don't tell you

i started thinking about some of the things i've realised over the past 6 years, the stuff that you just don't find printed in all of those book you read about pregnancy, birth and beyond.

here's a list of a few i'd like to share:

• you will feel guilty
• you will cry, some sad tears, some happy
• it's ok to cry
• birthing any way is ok
• having pain relief through labour is ok
• some mothers judge and make other mothers feel bad. they are not worth your time
• breast feeding is great
• bottle feeding is great
• choice is great
• kids change your life
• c-sections hurt - a lot
• some things get easier, some get harder
• drink lots of pear juice after birth - trust me!
• the end of pregnancy is hard no matter who you are
• breastfeeding hurts at first, even when you're doing it 'right'
• a good photograph is all about angles
• fed is best
• if you've had a natural birth, you should not attempt to use a tampon for at least 6 months. when you do - it will hurt

can you relate to any of the things on the list above?

sharing

i don't like sharing.

pretty much plain and simple, i really don't like sharing anything.

i especially do not like sharing my bed, my pillow and my drinks. with anyone. obviously i do share my bed with my husband, and i am ok with that - really i am. what i don't like to do is share my bed with my children and definitely do. not. touch. my. pillow!

i guess some of this feeling is just me and some of it comes from me feeling like i share everything of me all the time. i've shared my body to grow 4 beautiful children over the past 5.5 years, i share my time, my emotion my everything all day and all night and i guess some little things i consider precious and just simply - mine.

how do you go with sharing, do you mind?